One more update:
I got a flower delivery today of pretty flowers. I of course had NO clue who sent them. Imagine my surprise when the card was from my SIL.
Written in the card: Robin- I am so sorry. I dont know why I ever said what I did the other day. I hope you can someday forgive me.
Well, I already decided that since she is close family.... and prior to this, she emailed me a few times with apologies.... that I would just have to get over this..... the last thing I want to do is cause some huge kind of rift in the family. I mean, Im still angry, but at least I said what I needed to say..... and I tried to do it civily. (Dh's approach to her was not nearly as nice...lol). Hes still very angry. But, I hate the stress of anger to others. She clearly knows she should of kept her opinions to herself. I am smart enough to understand that some will never "get-understand" HG. I think she realizes that after years of knowingly pissing me off, and me saying zilch, that she clearly crossed a line this time. I am confident that she knows it was NOT the right thing to say to me..... espeically right now.
So, I guess I will forgive her. It doesnt mean I will forget.... but I can be the bigger person and move past this..... ESPECIALlY since I have never in my life heard her say she was WRONG
You know.... someone, I cant recall excactly who posted it right now, said maybe she is jealous. Some days I think she is..... I know she wants another baby.... but finacially its not the right time for them right now. So, one never knows...
And..... by the way, even though I am forgiving her DOESNT mean she still couldnt visit HG island..... or go through any of the other wonderful ideas you all came up with..... arent us HG gals creative?
Robin