Hi,
Posted to another forum and am pasting this here in hopes that other women who suffered hg and miscarriage will respond.
My baby died in May, no heartbeat at the 10 week appointment. The baby measured 10 weeks, so she had died within hours, the doctor thought. Though I was miserably sick and angry about this surprise pregnancy (and had no clue how I'd deal with an infant at this point), I have been devastated by her death.
A perinatologist confirmed there was no heartbeat and saw evidence of a chromosomal defect, but I do wonder if the HG mattered. 25% of Downs babies are born full term. Did my baby die because her weaker heart, due to the Downs, couldn't handle the HG? (As an aside, this perinatologist referred to HG as "the body's way of keeping harmful things out of your system." Huh? I responded, "You mean things like water?" How can she be in this field and be so ignorant?)
I didn't start to feel better for weeks. Actually, I bled and passed tissue for a month after the baby was born. In fact, the spotting never really stopped and then my period started three weeks ago. Nothing like bleeding for two months, but I'm so glad I let my body do the work instead of my doctor. I saw my baby, tiny as she was, named her, had her cremated, and simply felt in control of the process. Even though the HG was worse this time, my postpartum complications have been milder than my first pregnancy. No psychosis or panic attacks, just generalized anxiety that is being handled with meds.
I would like to hear more about other hg miscarriage experiences. I had, and still have, food aversions. Even after the baby was born (two weeks after I learned she had died), I was sick. I could eat fruit, but only if it had no bruises. Smells were still a trigger. I really developed weird aversions after the can't eat or drink anything HG finally left.
Also, I think we should have a special thread for our discussions on miscarriage and HG. Can we get one?
How are you doing physically and emotionally? I've got a lot of resources that are helping me and would happily share anything with you.