So, I go to counseling. You know, guilt, regret, sorrow. Why can't I have my baby? How could I ever have possibly have thought about termination? Then, after all that, why did my baby die anyway?
My dh, God bless him, was really, really scared because he is really convinced that if it had gone any longer, like one or two weeks, I would have died. So he went out right away and got snipped. My therapist says that not only am I mourning the loss of this child, but I am mourning the possibility of not every having anymore children.
But I don't really want the possibility of having anymore children, I want Casey. That is my baby.
Last week I cried all week long because I knew I would be halfway and would know if Casey was a girl or a boy. It was heartbreaking to realize that.
And what do I tell my 3 year old, Riley. I don't know if it is better for her to pretend it never happened or to let her know that she has a sister watching over her in heaven? I don't want to deny either one of them that, but what is best for Riley emotionally? I want to put up Riley and Casey's us pictures in this beautiful frame I got an honor both of my beautiful babies.
Well, I honestly think I am making myself sadder, so I am going to go for now. But please let me know how you handle it with your living children.
Thank you,
Karen
Riley, DD, 8/23/02
Casey Lee, EDD, 9/06