by cthmschler » Jun 01, 2004 12:49 pm
Surprisingly enough, my biggest conversational problem is with the sister who also has had 4 HG pregnancies (although she managed to work throughout her first). Of the other two sisters, one is just going through her first pregnancy and thanking God that she DOESN'T have HG, and the other has 8 kids, seem almost in better health pregnant than not, and probably knows that both of us that suffer with HG would sometimes love to strangle her, so she NEVER tries the "It'll be over soon, It's all worth it, or worse of all I know how you feel" She does, however, watch the kids frequently, (she's the only sister in the same state as me) pick up foods and snacks that she knows they like (as she also knows that my hubby has to do all the shopping and DOESN'T enjoy it!), and doesn't seem to begrudge my husband borrowing hers to help with the inevitable springtime outdoor projects, even though mine can't reciprocate this year, as he also has to do all of the household and child related chores.
Anyways, the sister who has been through HG is the worse to talk to. She had her last baby last year at about the time I'm due this year, and whenever I talk to her she's always full of comments like "just think, by this time next year you'll be packing away baby clothes like me, and this will all be behind you" and the inevitable "it's all worth it in the end" When I'm sorry, but I still can't bring myself to be even remotely happy about being pregnant in the first place! And when she asks how I'm doing medically, she'll comment something like : "Oh, I had to stop taking Zofran because of the constipation" And she didn't get sicker again when she stopped. (Yet I'm still (or rather again) vommitting everything I drink even WITH the Zofran) And her PICC line came out at around 20-something weeks, and she just elected not to have another one in "Oh, I was on the couch for a few weeks after that, but then it was better" She doesn't seem to understand that there were months (and even this far along, I still have days) where I couldn't make it to the BATHROOM without assistance, let alone the couch!! I guess I just expect someone who has been through HG to understand more, and when she doesn't it's even more frustrating than the same responses/comments from someone who doesn't have a clue.
Teresa
Mama to Micah Thomas (2-95), Noah Alexander (11-96), Quentin Louis (5-01), and (drum roll, please) Gabriel Ryan (7-04)