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People will never understand!!!!

Postby Stephwarbe » Oct 20, 2012 6:03 pm

Aaaagggghhhhhh!!! This is my first ever post on here and I can't believe it's a rant :( sorry! But I found this site after trawling the Internet looking for answers! I had my son 2 years ago now and I had the most horrendous time! I was traveling at the time and thankfully when I became pregnant I was in oz! My family were all back in the uk apart from my husband who was with me! Hyperemisis kicked in big style from 7 weeks and I ended up on a drip etc etc and in hospital for 12 weeks! I could stand, I had bed baths, being sick 60+ times a day, in between being sick the most I could do was sleep. It was the most awful time of my life and then bang!!! A blood test came back and it said my baby was high risk of trisomy 18 (Edwards syndrome) babies with this don't normally survive until birth but after 2 and a half years of trying for a baby and going through (at that point) 12 weeks of utter hell I wasn't going to give up on my baby! I battled through, ended up with pre eclampsia and had an awful delivery which ended in a crash c section but it was all worth it and I have a beautiful intelligent 2 year old now! I still haven't got over the whole thing! The only person apart from myself who truly understands what I went through was my husband! When we eventually got back to the uk I was around 20 weeks and was escorted home on the plane and straight back into hospital. My mum and sisters started saying things like oh yeah I had hyperemisis when I was pregnant, I was sick morning, noon and night! My response was to just say yeah ok or oh right but now I'm seeing people saying it everywhere!! A friend on facebook who is now 13 weeks pregnant has just put on her status that she can't wait for the hyperemisis to end now and that she's still being sick at 13 weeks!!! Seriously??? She's managed to go to work every day since getting pregnant and not been in hospital once apart from her 12 week scan!! Yes I'm not doubting that she has bad morning sickness but my god if only she really knew what hyperemisis was like!!! I seriously wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy but sometimes I would like people to just experience a day or two of it so they can start to appreciate what I went through for 9 whole (very long) months!
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Re: People will never understand!!!!

Postby joy_g » Oct 21, 2012 10:51 am

oh yes, that is my favorite. one mention of HG, and the comparatively laughable NVP of your friends and relations becomes soooo serious, too.

**i had to keep crackers by my bed!
**i threw up every day for, like, weeks!
**my sister had that, too...she couldn't eat anything!

makes you want to scream. i have one relative (may she remain nameless) who would be much happier if her pregnancies were the worst in the family. she can't stand it that mine get "so much attention"... as if! it's never "how are you?" it's always, "oh yes, when i was pregnant, such-and-such happened. it's worth it." rrrright. i would SO happily give up the title of worst pregnancies you've ever heard of. she can have it! if only it were true.
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Re: People will never understand!!!!

Postby Luciddreamrgrl » Oct 21, 2012 8:07 pm

I hate it when people say they had hyperemesis because they had normal morning sickness. I hear it sometimes. I even had one of the doctors in my practice tell me that ALL of his patients have hyperemesis. It's normal to throw up during pregnancy. I was so angry because I know for a fact I'm he only patient currently in their practice that has a picc line. Multiple other docs told me that. So if hyperemesis like I have is so normal, how come all of your patients don't have picc lines? Idiot.
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Re: People will never understand!!!!

Postby LadyBug1 » Oct 26, 2012 11:32 am

I'm struggling on the other end of the spectrum. Mine hasn't been that bad this time, but that is only because I got treatment early. Yes, I've only lost 8 pounds, yes, I haven't needed an IV yet, but I'm only 12 weeks and I've been on zofran round the clock for 6 of those, and on zantac twice a day and B6 round the clock for two. Just because I currently have things under control doesn't mean I'm not suffering, it doesn't mean I'm not terrified of losing control every single day. I'm sick of people telling me it's just normal morning sickness and it will be over in a week or two. How many people require seven pills a day to control their morning sickness so they are *only* losing a pound a week?!
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DS 05/2013 - mild HG 6 weeks - 35 weeks (zofran, zantac, B6, tums, colace), MS 35-birth (zofran as needed), lost 7% bodyweight

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Re: People will never understand!!!!

Postby friskyflores » Dec 08, 2012 6:40 pm

to be honest, I don't know how I havent punched anyone in the face... cause god knows Ive been close.

most people are stupid...

they you get the dumb comments from your doc and nurse and really want to scream!!!!!
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Re: People will never understand!!!!

Postby jahzara » Dec 05, 2013 12:29 pm

I hear you... i guess there are varying degrees of Hyperemesis but i understand fully because i was sick the entire time ... unless i was able to sleep from time to time i was sick. I spent my days in bed, when i got out of bed my heart would race and i felt like i would drop to the floor i could not take in fluids even ice chips were difficult to ingest so i spent a lot of time hooked to Ivs and i am thankful to God for Zofran which was not in Canada on my first pregnancies i might add.I will never forget the HG experience because you truly feel like you are dying and the multitudes of insensitive people you encounter at a time when you need understanding is astounding. I have tremendous respect for HG survivors!
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Re: People will never understand!!!!

Postby hopekristyn » Sep 02, 2014 4:09 pm

I really feel this one. I had severe HG throughout my first pregnancy. I am 8 weeks along with my second and experiencing all the same problems. My own mother (who saw what I went through last time) recently tried to tell me that she and my sister had the same thing. Although they never had so much as a single IV, never missed a day of work (I have had to completely stop working), never threw up so hard their eyeballs bled, never had PICC lines installed, never missed entire weeks of sleep due to the inability to stop dry-heaving, never threw up blood from their eroded esophagus, never spent a single night in the hospital, and truly never had HG. Her comment was, "We just don't let anything stop us." AS IF! As if I am just "letting this stop me."

I'm just thankful that when she explained that she knew "exactly how I feel", I was too weak and exhausted (from just getting home from the hospital) to be mean to her. I have to believe she was trying (in a very pathetic way) to show support and in the absence of anything truly encouraging to say, that was what came spewing out.

The problem with HG is that morning sickness has the same central symptoms, just not anywhere near the same severity. So, people assume that what they have experienced must be what everyone experiences. My favorite quote has been, "Morning sickness is to HG as a strong breeze is to an F4 TORNADO!"

I'm thankful that there are people on here who get it. At the same time, I'm sorry that you get it. I wish we all could just complain about morning sickness and never ever know how horrible HG is.
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