Dear Gail,
What to do about edd? I asked the MISS Mommies and they answered. Marla's post above is very helpful too.
Someone sent me an email, can't find it now
It said that taking an hour the day before or day after and dedicate that time to reflection, remembering, crying, being with your baby.
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Here's some of the other advice from MISS Mommies
One thing the head of the ob grief team said to me, about two weeks after Hope was born, was to "pick" a due date . . .I'd been given several because of the many appts, complications, and u/s. So I picked. Do you think it would work for her to "pick" another day to spend with her baby?
Maybe being busy and working will be better?
Suzanne
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I am sorry your friend is hurting.
I don't have any advice on this sweetie. On my due dates and on the anniversaries of my children I plan to have at least an hour to myself. Once, I had an exam (I was a teacher) and couldn't cancel it, so I took the next day off to be by myself.
Hugs,
Carla
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I hate that your friend has to work that day.
Maybe she could release a balloon in memory of her baby's due date the day before? And maybe she could find a special pin to wear at work the next day?
That is all I can think of at the moment.
Many hugs,
Ginger
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I went to work on Skye's due date - I just didn't see any point in hanging about the apartment all day, waiting for my husband to come home. I bought Skye a blank card and John and I both wrote in it... I think as the years go by that I will spend the day differently... or not.
Wishing you and your friend well,
Carolyn
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I wish I had some wonderful advice. The day of Elissa's due date is sort of a blur. I know it was terribly hard and filled with tears, frustation, and pure devastion. Luckily, once that day passed I felt a weight was removed. My best advice is actually for you. Aknowlegde the day and her loss. You can't take her pain away, but knowing you care deeply for her will help her survive the day and the days to come.
Stephanie
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My due date was 25 May 04. For me, it was hardest leading up to that day. Once 25 May came, it was just like any other day and it was actually much, much better than the days leading up to it. On the actual due date, I kept myself busy by painting my mother-in-laws livingroom. I was doing something, but had quiet time to reflect and think about my loss.
Cindi
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Pursuant to what Stephanie said, what can I or any of your HER friends or any other friends do to make your day better. . .whatever better is?