I'm halfway new around here - visited a few times when I was pregnant with my second daughter, and now I'm back thinking about having another child.
I visited my ob/gyn yesterday - the same one that treated my HG during my second pregnancy - and she said that, due to my history, at the first twinge of morning sickness, they'll put me on a portable subcutaneous pump of reglan or something similar.
Like everyone else here, I have horrible memories of my HG experience, and the thought of going through it again scares me to death. But then again, so do the ramifications of carrying a pump around with me all the time, added to the fact that I'm terrified of needles. All of this has me wondering if we should consider adoption.
My dh, however, is completely opposed to adoption. This is absolutely shocking to me because he is and has always been a very understanding, supportive, and open-minded person. I don't even know how to deal with him while he's being so narrow-minded because I've never had to before.
He says he's heard all kinds of stories about how adopted children find out they're adopted and become angry and resentful and want nothing to do with their adoptive parents. He also says he "just wants his own child."
I've told him that cases like what he mentions are extremely rare and that most adopted children are perfectly well-adjusted and happy. I've also told him that he would love an adopted children as his own because he/she WOULD be his own. He's said he's open to discussing it, but I 'm fairly certain he's just saying that to appease me.
I haven't made up my mind that I definitely want to adopt. I just would like to know that we can have an open-minded discussion if I decide I can't handle another pregnancy. Does anyone have any advice for me? I'd sure appreciate it right now. We have a really wonderful relationship, but this is straining it right now.
Thanks!