I can't make up my mind. My babies are 2. They sleep thru the night. I'm healhty again. I like this.
I both love and somewhat dislike our current birth control (NFP). Even when I KNOW I'm not pregnant, my normal, every few cycles lateness freak me out.
No one in the family seems to think we should have any reason ever to have another baby. I swore I wouldn't have kids past age 25... and I already broke that. 30 approaches quickly in December. My heart would love one more baby. For so many reasons, a *decent* (lol, and in HG terms what would qualify as "decent" is pretty loosely used) pregnancy would be so wonderful.
But facts are I'd have to have care for 3 kids now, not just one. I'd probably have less willingly given support from my family (maybe my sister but I wouldn't want to rely on her). I'd have to be able to loose my job (being part time, I may never hit the FMLA requirements, though in CA there are probably ways I might be able to keep my job).
And I've finally accepted that ... I can't predict what would happen. Logically I think ... well the twins thing made what was a relatively better pregnancy (the first half) worse. That , more so than the HG (or that combined with the HG). So, maybe .... you know... NEXT TIME.. would be BETTER?
And then I think about what happened and HOW many organs have been impacted between my two pregnancies. And that scares me. My uterus now has a scar which makes any future pregnancies slightly more at risk. The gallbladder is gone. Last time my pancreas, liver (still don't know whether I had fatty liver going on or not and/or whether that could be a potential problem in a future pregnancy)... and then the heart issues post partum.
This makes me angry. That I AM willing to risk the HG again. I'm willing to endure that. But why can't I know what I'd be signing up for? If I could be garaunteed a singleton pregnancy and just the endless puking it would be a go for sure. And I could start planning the details, aim for a TTC date (down the road) But all I know is that I can't know what will happen. How can you make a decision when you don't even for sure what complications you'll be dealing with?
Where's the form I get to check of the things I don't consent to?
The last advice I got from an OB (not even the one who provided my care, just someone I saw for my post partum check up) was "having more kids would be very dangerous". With no elaboration on why. I can fill in a jillion reasons......