Well, Now it IS final!!!!

[HGx3]

It is final, and I am so relieved!!!!!!! DH had his vasectomy on Friday!!!!!!! He moped around all weekend complaining of the discomfort.....this real evil snicker came over me, and all I could think was "poor baby...I had SEVERE hg, THREE times, pushed all three babies out of my vagina, and had to have stitches all three times, AND, I got up (and am still) to nurse a baby thru the night.

CRY ME A RIVER YOU POOR POOR THING.

Now I am thinking I should have posted this as a vent...lol

Anyway, all is well, and I am very pleased!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for all the encouragement prior to this event!!!!!!

[Kschwintz]

Ha!!! I think my husband KNOWS to not even complain to me when he is sick. Last week my mom had a stomach virus and was so miserable. When she got better, I said... Imagine feeling like that for 7 months straignt!

Argh!

[HGx3]

UGH!!!! I know, My cousins who had picture perfect pgs had that virus a couple weeks ago, and I made SURE I reminded them that I felt that way for all three pgs!!!! They said that they thought of me...............
Anyway, I am still secretly hoping that somebody ends up with hg in a later pg, arent I just viscious?????? LOL!!!!!!!!

How is miss Ainsley doing?

[Kschwintz]

I, too, have those evil thoughts as well...

However, I know that if my sister got HG, I would be the only one that would take care of her, and I'm not sure I could re-live it by watching my sister go through it. Talk about PTSD triggers!! I still have major aversions to things that ate/drank during HG, and it's been over 2 years!!

Ainsley is doing wonderful... Definitely 2! She never stops talking, singing or dancing!!

How are your 3 doing? I am sure you are keeping very busy

[HGx3]

Matthew just turned 4 on the 17th!! Lauryn will be 3 in April and has just entered into her terrible twos....late, yes, but making up for lost time
Joshua is such a sweetie, they are just so precious when they cant talk...lol They are all thrivinf, I am exhausted

I am sure if any of my close family ended up with hg I would be there to help, but I know I would drop those little"it aint so easy, is it" remarks every now and then.......

[meg]

Lisa,

I wonder if you would answer a question for me if it isn't too personal. I read in your other posts on this subject that originally you were scheduled to have a TL but because of other problems you did not and that is how DH ended up having the vasectomy some months later. Do you think that waiting those months made the decision any easier or more difficult? I ask because I can't really go through this again and my family can't handle it either. Still, I feel quite uneasy about the TL I have tentatively scheduled with my c-section. (I also have to admit that the idea my DH might suffer just a bit if he were to have a vasectomy is appealing to me! ) I have read that women who have TL in conjunction with childbirth are most likely to regret the decision. If I don't do it while I'm on the table for the c-section, I really don't picture myself going back to have it done 6 months later... so I'm back to my question, do you think the gap between your last child's birth and your decision to make having no more children a permanant choice helped you make peace with this or did it just prolong your agony and the inevitable?

Thanks.

[HGx3]

When I was pg this last time, it was soooooo awful that I had NO doubt THAT I WAS DONE.I was sure of that, no questions, just done! I even signed the paperwork. I was having a tubal at 6wks pp. Then, as you may have read, fate took a different turn for me and the tubal never took place.

I have to honestly say that this has been the most miserable 8 months as far as intamacy goes. We have had sex probably twice BECAUSE, I got a stomach virus about 2 weeks after doing it. I thought I was pregnant................ I was ANGRY, yelling at dh, crying, it was horrific for me. Simply not worth the risk for either of us.

Not having the tubal did prolong the inevitable. I told dh that I could not experience the fear of wondering if there was a chance that I was pg. I told him something had to be done, and he scheduled his vasectomy. I figured it was the least he could do after what I had gone thru...

I think if you have hg, and you have had more than one child, then you are not making a hasty decision. At that point, you know whether or not you can experience hg ever again, and for me, I simply could not. Because I already knew these things, I didnt want to take the chance of "forgetting" just how bad it really was, and convince myself that somehow another pg would be different. I would not have regretted the tubal, and still plan to have one at some point

It is still sad though........making it permenant and all, but sad and sick are two very different things!!!!

I hope this helps some, sorry so long.

[meg]

Lisa,

Thank you. That helped a lot. Your line about not "forgetting" and convincing yourself that another pg would be different really hit home. That is exactly what I am doing and I'm still pg and sick! I think I will definitely get pg again and then immediately regret it because of the sickness and the suffering of my family if I don't take action to prevent that asap. I am clinging to having that "option" when really there is no option for me. I don't know why but your post really made this all clear to me. So, thank you. I've been ready to be "done" but I think now I'm ready to admit to myself that I'm really finished with this whole pg thing! Now if I could just really finish this pg!!!! Just three months to go!

[IslandDreamer]

My dh is a huge baby when he's sick.

Regarding more kids, he somehow thinks another pregnancy with be magically better and we'd actually get a take home baby this time . Odds aren't in our favor on any of it. I would LOVE to see him waddle for a few days , but he refuses. Looking at a very long dry spell at our house whether I get a negative or positive at the end of this month...either hg again (please, no), or a shut out until he gets the vasectomy or I can handle the PTSD enough to get the tubal. But no more chances. Ugh.

Lisa, congratulations on worry free sex .

[HGx3]

Suzanne,
We are gonna walk by faith and believe God will bless you and your unborn baby with a full term pg if you test positive. Just remember, you are a strong woman and can face whatever challenges come your way!!!!

As far as the sex, that is still a no go for 8 weeks. DH will have to give a sample that tests negative before we can be worry free

[PamelaRose]

Woooohoooo, Matt! Did I miss some decision-making that went into a vas instead of TL? Not that I think he wasn't due, mind you! Our doctor was actually kind of disappointed when we decided I'd have a tubal--our doctor thought Troy deserved to share in some of the misery after all I'd gone through. I've promised that we'll do vas if we have leftover flex money some year. LOL

Hope things are well with you. One of these days I'll actually talk to you again!

[HGx3]

Hey!!!! Well, you know, since I had to have the emergency gallbladder surgery At 2 weeks pp INSTEAD of the much wanted and needed tubal at 6wks pp...........
With all the hell i went thru right after Josh was born, I decided that I just didnt feel like putting myself thru anything else right now. I mean, I still havent fully recovered from the lingering pancreatitus episode. In short,

no tubal=no sex ~no vasectomy=no sex~ no sex=no hg pg

SO, dh was given the ultimatum after a tummy virus gave me an hg flashback and pregnancy scare. It really wasnt realistic that I could have been pg at that time, BUT, the possibility was there.....and well huh, I went on his @$$, lol. I do still plan on having one, just not right now, I am not *up* to any more medical intervention at this point in my recovery.
Oh, I just miss you (((((((((snuggles)))))))))

[PamelaRose]

Wise girl! Now you can wait around for Essure to mosey its way to your area. Yeah, I think you put in enough frequent-flier miles at the old hospital recently. But just so you know--it takes a year before you actually start to relax and believe that it is true, that you won't be getting pregnant. Before that, you'll still worry every month and freak out if anything's out of the ordinary. After that, it's in the back of your mind, but reduced to just a niggling concern. So tell that husband that he's not off the hook yet, even after those checks come back clear. heehee Take care, and thanks for the snuggles!

[teddi]

well huh, I went on his @$$, lol.


But tell us how you REALLY feel, lol.

And about the not wanting any more medical intervention... oh do I understand. I am NOT even willing to consider a tubal, h#$% no, NO. I am 28 and I have had so much crap done to me it's not funny. I'm glad that your hubby went through with it and that you have peace of mind now!