by HelenA » Jan 06, 2007 6:29 pm
Ok so thinking rationally, I know that I can't put my body through this again, the HG is bad enough, but add not being able to walk, and my exceptionally bad birth experiences to that and I know that DH getting the snip is the right thing. I always said two kids would be enough. DH has said he couldn't watch me go through another pg and won't even entertain the idea of another child, and I agree. I think. There is this one incy wincy part of me that says "But what if...?" Normally I catch myself straight after the thought and come back to reality, but recently as I have been talking to DH about it (usually a joke about the next one to which he gives me a look and says "not likely") I am feeling a bit sad about it. DH was supposed to get in to see a dr over christmas to get on the waiting list for the big V, but he never went in. A little part of me is glad, since afterwards there'll be no option. I'm not talking right now, but in the future? Maybe. I don't know. 2 kids and HG and SPD and the birth to worry about fills me with dread, but so does having the choice taken away from me altogether. I just don't know if I'm done or not. I don't want any more, but I do. Does that make sense? Maybe it's just because the options are running out for me and I'm panicking because I can't change my mind afterwards. How do you make the choice? Right now I have far too many issues going on for another one, my mental state isn't ready for another one yet, but I'm talking 2,3,4 years time. Will I regret him getting "done"? ARGGGGHHHHHHH I hate that I have to chose, but time is running out, as DH still keeps mentioning getting the appt. But at th same time he thinks that I don't want anymore. I'm not saying I do. But I'm not saying I don't. ACK! I'm gonna go sleep on it. Thanks for letting me vent.