by BrandiJK » Dec 11, 2005 11:46 am
Dh and I have been talking more and more. Well, really it has been me talking, and him saying he's been thinking on that and agreeing.
I think this has to be it. Part of me just wants him to get a vasectomy asap, that it will feel so wonderfully good to know this is behind me. (I have nightmares that I get pg again while still pg, it's just that bad!) But, wow, I feel so selfish... I want a son. Here I have 2, soon to be three, perfect and beautiful little girls...and I am having a hard time giving up the idea of a son. I don't know why. Maybe it's because my husband is the last of his line, maybe it's because it's different then girls, or maybe it's something or other. I don't know. But I cry when I walk by baby's clothing and see boy stuff, because I feel like I am giving this up.
But I don't think I can do this again. My body just is being pushed too far. Oh, I could bring more babies into the world, I am sure. But I look at my body, and hell, who would believe I am only 30??? What are the long term issues? How will I recover? Will I ever be me again?
Then there is the list of other stuff. I don't think my family can survive this again, I just don't. I don't know I can, emotionally, survive this again, I don't think I can do this to my kids again, that I can keep up again, and really...how am I going to pay for all these kids to grow, to go to good schools, college.... I know many of you know these thoughts. I could go on and on and on.
I guess I just was looking for a place to put this. I don't want to be pregnant again. If he was fixed, this fear would be behind me. I feel so almost ready to let go of the whole idea of more children, I am just so afraid I'll regret it later, you know?
Dh still wants a son. He wants to adopt, eventually, and I think I could be ok with that. Jeeze...I really do feel quit selfish. I keep feeling like I need someone to give me a good knock on the head and say, "count your blessing sweet heart!" I wouldn't trade my girls for anything. They are my life blood.
I guess it's just a hard decision.
The only thing worth stealing is a kiss from a sleeping child.