Hi!
I'm not sure whether to try for another, or to say I'm done.I'm changing my mind lots at the moment.
My last pregnancy didn't go well. I had severe run-away HG (wasn't on meds first 4 weeks.. bad mistake), lost 40 pounds in 4 weeks, got very ill in hospital despite IV hydration, and finally lost my baby girl at 13 weeks (placenta abruption, bleeding started when I was at my worst). It had a huge impact on my health post preg, although 8 months on I'm almost physically recovered from it.
During the pregnancy I had decided no more, but after the miscarriage I immediately thought I'd try again. At that time I didn't want to have to grieve the loss of future children, as well as the child we had just lost.
I've found myself sabotaging my efforts to get healthy again so I can TTC, and its made me think, maybe I don't want to try again, or maybe I'm too scared to.
I think "no more" because of the long term physical impact HG can have on my health, the impact another HG preg would have on my family and plain fear.
I was so scared during the last pregnancy. There were a few weeks where I wasn't sure if I would survive (physically that is). My side of the family have expressed reservations about me trying again for that reason. My DH says the decision is up to me, he would like another too, but also worries about me going through it again.
I think "another one" because I'd like a sibling for my 3 year old, I'd like a baby again, I like larger families with brothers, sisters, cousins etc, and because I'd worry I'd feel like a failure.
Whenever I think "no more", I have intense feelings of pain and grief. When I think "I'll try again" I feel stressed out!!
When do you know? Do you get to the stage where you feel comfortable about your decision, do you still have doubts?
Still confused,
Debbie