by Ohnonumber3 » Apr 22, 2007 8:27 pm
I am sorry you are in the position you are today.
I can 100% identify with you. I don't have a magical solution, and wish I did.
When i was PG with my DD, I had to go onto STD, i did outside sales for work,and there was no way, esp since I went into Pet Stores (gag) and had to lug 40-50lbs bags of dog food. With my DS, had taken 6 weeks of STD, but was able to go back after that (maybe 8 weeks, i don't remember),
Although its less money, it wasn't too bad b/c of the differnce with taxes and stuff. We were able to make it thought. ( With DS, my DH was in the police academey, he wasn't allowed to do over time, or work another position, to add to it, he wans't allowed to miss a minute. they did let him come home early one day, when i called his Lt, and passed out on the phone with him, oops) It sucked ass. We lived on Credit cards, but honestly, it wasn't horrific b/c i wans't spending the money on gas, dry cleaning, etc etc.
With my DD, i was 10x work, i had kidney and liver issues, it was terrible. I was out on STD. Previsouly, we had bought a new house, back in January, WAY before I became PG (June). We were putting our house up for sale, and i was so bad at one point, that I was on Potassium bag, passed out in bed, and woke up to people "showing" our house. WELL, our house sold, the new house was put back, we were living in a hotel... and I had to goto LTD, since my STD was up. I tried to get the OB to release me back to work, and he refused. The DAY I went ot LTD, (well actually it was 2 weeks before the day, I found out from a nice co-worked who gave me the heads up) I was terminated due to my medical status. It was effective 2 days after we were to settle on the new house. It was INSANE!! At least at that point, DH could do some OT, b/c he was a "real" police officer. Of course, with me being sick, living in a hotel with my son and cats, i wans't exactly great to be left alone.
SO we were shitting our pants, hoping the house would settle, (there were SO any delays) else, we weould never qulaify without my salary. We had aloready sold our other house, our stuff was in storage, yada yada.
SO, fast forward to SURPRISE, where we are now. In October, we moved to PA. Our house in VA is up for sale and we are staying ith my mom. DH took a a10K paycut, but will be making alot more in a few yers. Cost of living, etc is better, plus we are by family. We went to NY for a weekend, the condom broke and WHAMMO, here we are. We are now living with my inlawsin NJ, and trying to keep heads above water since 6 months later the house is STILL for sale.
We have nothing for the baby b/c we had no plans for number 3. Its a disaster.
SO, if miseray loves company-- you certainly have it.
I think your DH needs to be a little more understanding and suck it up a bit more and get some kinda PT job, that he can do and stil do school. If you continue to push yourself , you are going to crash. You are going to have longer term damage to yourself, and its going to bite you in the ass later. I would really push, to figure something out, somehow.
Christi
Christi
DS 4/03 Severe HG
DD 2/05 even MOre severe HG
WHOOPS due 10/15/07- Yeah, lets puke some more
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