by Ivydragon » Jun 18, 2004 10:34 am
Hi!
So, not your first pg, but your first HG experience! Ok, a few things you need to know. Most HGers are NOT this miserably sick for 9 months, so you can just throw that out right now. Yes, some are sick the whole time, but you won't know for sure until you get there. As long as I stayed on my meds, I felt normal by 20 wks. You can't sentence yourself to misery for nine months - it may be totally unrealistic, and so depressing!
There's a post in here all about Zofran/B6/Unisom. It's important to read. Hydration is SO important. One thing I did (besides B6 injections), was to be woken early to take my meds, and have something to eat. I'd then go back to sleep. I didn't even have to get out of bed, dh brought me breakfast. I'm talking HOURS before I would normally get up. So then, when I did get up, I wasn't famished, nauseas, or about to hurl (most the time). Eat small things frequently, and try keeping solids and liquids separate. Sometimes that helps tons. Vary your food choices, and see if you can't get in some variety. Don't worry about nutrition. If it's appealing and it stays down and it's junk food, it's at least calories getting in compared to healthy food that comes back up!
HG ALWAYS has a peak. Even in pgs that are the most severe, the very very worst of it is about 13 wks. So, honestly, you're in for a rough month, but very very many HGers feel a little bit more human, and a little less like they are about to die, and get on about the business of enduring and recovering after that. Right now, your goal has to be short term. Can you wrap your mind around the next month? Nope. Can you wrap your mind around the next week? No. Can you wrap your mind around the next day? Probably not. The next hour? Possibly. The next minute? Yes - yeah, you can DO that. The worst of HG is about surviving the next thing - irrelevant of time. "Yes, I can survive sitting here in this horrible waiting room for my name to be called." "Yes, I can survive this blood draw." "Yes, I can survive walking to the bathroom to pee." "Yes, I can survive opening the car door." "Yes, somehow I'll make it to the front door." "Yes, I actually can get out of the bathtub with my husband's help." "Yes, I think I'll actually make it to the bed without throwing up."
Break life down into the pieces that are small enough for you to handle. That's how we do this. We also want our babies more than we want pretty much anything on earth. That is how we do this. We come here to get support and understanding from women who actually know exactly how you feel. That is how we do this. We find the best Drs., the best meds to combine, the best way to stay hydrated. That is how we do this. We KNOW it has to end at some point. That is how we do this. We learn to be proactive, and fight for what we need. That is how we do this.
And hun, it's enough for most of us after once or twice. Yeah, some go on to have 3, 4, 5 HG pgs, but most of us only have about 2, and we say, No, no more - I've had enough! That's why we have forums about adoption, and surrogacy and no more for me! Because for all HGers, we also get to the point of enough is enough.
We are some of the strongest women on earth. We sacrifice hopes, dreams, planned futures and normal life just to get the child we set out to bring home. HG takes everything it possibly can, but it does end, and we get the most spectacular reward of all. Babies!
Huge hugs, and you can vent and post here as much as you like. Let me know what we can do to help you, and call and bug your Dr. Only 30 pills at a time? Is that the Dr., or the ins. ?!? There are ways to work with the insurance to get that upped. If your Dr. won't work with you, get a new one! Call the hospital and find out who the best one is, and get in with them! Like you're going to be better after 30 pills are gone! I was on Zofran for 31 wks, and I had moderate HG when I was on Zofran (my 2nd pg).
Huge hugs, Andy
Mom to Aaron 14 (HG), Anna 11 (HG), Adam 8 (adopted), Andrew 8 (adopted), fostering a newborn . . .