Does anyone here have any suggestions on how to talk to your husband/partner if they don't seem too interested or are having trouble understanding... or they just plain don't want to 'deal' with it?
Do any husbands have any ideas on how we can share our concerns better with you guys so that it doesn't come across badly or stress you guys out any more than you already are?
Sometimes during the stress (for both sides) we can get caught up in emotion and that comes across in our communication which is never a good thing. So, maybe we all can help each other to come up with non-threatening ways to communicate our feelings, fears and concerns to each other.
One suggestion that I have is that when you are about to say something that might be taken badly or in the wrong way, first start by saying that you are not sure how to word the following... or... start by saying, ok... I am stressed, can we talk about it.
Also, once your spouse/partner shares their thoughts/concerns, make sure they feel safe to do so and focus on it in regards to finding a workable solution and not to take offense.
Sometimes when we are caught up in nausea, aches and pains... we can only get half a breath out devoted to speach, so it can come across as a bit snappy, please don't take offense. It is just that when you are in that much discomfort and pain, it is hard to talk and we go into survival mode and sometimes it may make us SCREAM out what we need without patience or concern for hurting the other person's feelings.
It is all overwhelming and stressful - for both sides. We do understand that though it doesn't always come across that way. So, any suggestions you may have will not only help us and you, but everyone who may come across this in the future.
Hope this helps!
Sincerely,
Alison