by Ivydragon » Aug 15, 2004 4:02 pm
Hi, just want to check in and see how things are going with your mental game right now, and had a few things to add to everyone else's comments.
In the first trimester you are building two things, 1 baby, and 1 placenta. It takes about a 3rd of the pg to build that thing up! Even non-HG women are very tired and fatigued in the first trimester, so that is "normal" for all pg women.
Choosing to become a parent is an investment. You invest your heart and your soul and at the end of life women can look back and see how much of life they sacrificed for their children. One of the "blessings" of HG is that we get to see a bit more of that perspective from the beginning.
I keep thinking, what, do your family not "get" what you've been through with loss to this point?!? You have invested SO much of yourselves as a couple to becoming parents, and twice suffered loss. You have every right in the world to come home from work (hello, most HGers can't work at this point) and crash. You have every right to curl yourself up in a pile of blankets in a room that's the right temperature because you must rest. You may not be exhibiting HG symptoms, but just contemplate what one day would be like w/o all that you've done to get to this point. You KNOW where you were at this point last pg, and you don't want to go back there. It takes energy to fight HG. So many times HG is a "diagnoses", but I really think it is a disease. HG is there, and you're fighting it, successfully. Zofran isn't all about getting you back to a normal life, Zofran is all about keeping you and your baby eating, and alive. You are investing into a dream, a desire, a future, a life. Others can keep going normally with life while pg, we can't. There's nothing in life that will ever be more worthwhile.
I can guarantee that when all is said and done everyone gets over the fact that you cancelled from all those activities and stayed holed up in bed. In the end, you give birth to an amazing, beautiful, angelic, adored child who will win the hearts of everyone! They forget and come back to see the baby!
Huge hugs, Andy
Mom to Aaron 14 (HG), Anna 11 (HG), Adam 8 (adopted), Andrew 8 (adopted), fostering a newborn . . .