Just another view on the decision to limit your family size. Please take this post in the understanding light it is intended.
I too decided I would limit my family size to two children when I was pregnant with my second baby. My husband left me when I was 7 months pregnant and I was not wanting to ever experience the pain and drama that can come from a difficult pregnancy. I signed the papers to have a TL and I even switched from the hospital I loved so much when delivering my daughter (it was a Catholic hospital) so I could have the TL done in the event of a c-section.
Boy am I glad I didn't end up with a c-section and the resulting TL...
Let me explain... What I could not forsee was that 6 years later I would marry a wonderful man who loves children and is great with mine! He loves my children and yet so much wanted to have a child eventually call him Daddy. I explained to him how difficult my pregnancies can be, how they can take a toll on a marriage and that I had decided I never wanted to be pregnant again. He accepted that.
Eventually my maternal instincts kicked in though and I decided I wanted to share with him what he never got to experience - a baby.
Through this pregnancy he has been so supportive. This pregnancy has been by far the best managed and the least painful in the way of vomiting as well. I have gained 2 pounds instead of losing 10. I vomit once or twice a day instead of 5 to 10 times a day. Mostly, due to getting drugs into my system very early on I think.
Anyways... My husband has said he will have a vasectomy once the baby is born and I am so glad I am able to share this experience with him and I am really excited to be a mom again.
I can understand the decision to limit family size and I can also understand the decision not to even though HG can be awful, debilitating and life-threatening. I know there are many women on this site that have suffered many more physical ailments as a result of their vomiting and nausea than I and there are also those who have suffered miscarriage in addition to all that. My heart goes out to all you ladies.
I just wanted to make sure everyone thinks about it (not that you haven't) and waits until that adorable baby is born and you are actually faced with the decision to have another one prior to making the decision to limit your family size. Not that you will regret your decision but you just never know what could happen.
Just try not to sign those papers when you are pregnant and at the worst of it! I would have seriously regretted my TL after the fact.
PamelaRose put it really nicely when she wrote: "I guess what I'm trying to say is that you need to give it time, to question what's in your heart and mind. There are so many good options for birth control that you don't need to worry about sterilization until you know you're at that point, if you ever do. I hope you can reach a happy agreement with DH on this; Troy and I waffled back and forth so much that we couldn't remember who wanted another and who didn't when I actually got pregnant."